Being a parent for more than three years has given me unexpected challenges as well as surprises which comes in different packages. It’s true that parenting is bittersweet unlike of what most people say that it’s ecstatic despite the hard look on their faces. I should also say, the ways on how to deal with your children is limitless since they are different individuals who are trying to discover and adjust themselves in their environment.
I enjoy being a parent no matter how tiring it is and despite the nerve wrecking moments of discipline. It has always been a challenge to most of us moms since we try different approaches to our kids with a goal for them to become better individuals someday.
But sometimes no matter how you do it there are instances that are way beyond control, which is affected by different factors. It wouldn’t be most of the time that we have happy moments, most of it would be hours of raising your voices (but trying not to), repetitive reminders to your kids or the endless running-after-them to ensure you would catch them when they fall.
Yesterday, we celebrated the little girl’s birthday in one of the resorts few hours away from Manila (will be blogging about this soon). It was a day tour and we had buffet lunch by the river and our feet were dipped in the river water. For the first few minutes they were unbelievably behaved. D on the other hand was already manageable and knows what and not to do but should be coupled with endless reminders too. Since the little girl has just turned two, she has a lot of exploring to do with her environment and the challenge for me is the discipline part. Sometimes it gets hard when they fight and when the little girl triggers the “fun” then I know it’ll be impending doom for me.
Now, what I hate is the audience part. I must admit it doesn’t bother me an inch before but it seems that I should breathe out sentiments just like my fellow SAHMs out there. I have a little powerhouse who never ran out of energy and when she resists she is way stronger than me enough for her to take control. She has also has her own set of choices that when I don’t agree on it would mean adversity for the both of us. A is gracing her way towards the “terrible twos” stage and I have yet to formulate my style of discipline to her but, slowly I’m getting there.
When she decided to drop her feet at the water yesterday, her clothes were already soaking wet including her nappy. The mom instinct in me tolerated her for few minutes. But since the water current was so strong and the floor was slippery enough for her to be pushed far away from our table I had to stop her already. Just imagine the next scenario when I had to stop the “fun”. Adjacent to our table there were two couples in their late 50's that were busy lurking and giving me that hey-hold-that-temper look, I was bothered at first, but on a second thought why would I anyway? Then I remembered what I read from other parenting blogs, “they don’t have any idea.” Or maybe they do but they don’t know how hard it would be. Things are different now and I must say it has become more challenging. Our situations these days are yayaless and most mothers are juggling between household chores to work at home to parenting. So save yourself a little time and just go on with your busy life. To other parents out there who have nannies, you are lucky to have extra help and balance in the energy you exert for your kids. But for parents like me, who tries to be on the top of my toes by being a mom, manager of the house, accountant, nurse, wife and lover while taking into consideration as well how I would nurture my kids’ future by shelling them with fun activities and adventure, it is never easy.
To my fellow struggling parents out there, don’t get affected by unimportant audience. Just concentrate on how you will make the most of your life by choosing to enjoy life and shoo away negative entities in your life. It is after all your call as parents to your children. Happy parenting!
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